The countdown to the court date is drawing near and this girl is getting butterflies in her tummy. She’s good to go with the lawyers. She’s got her ever-steady Ninja set to go with her. She’s got all the paperwork done properly, and checked and double checked. She’s got backup papers ready to go as well- just in case. Needless to say, this girl’s a tad nervous and a lot excited. Kinda like a child before Christmas or before a huge and exciting birthday party; there’s a strange restlessness that never does really settle in the pit of your stomach and you have a big-ass grin ready to burst, but you just need to hold back… just that bit more.
This girl has been doing a lot of thinking these days, mainly because there are people around her that raise things to her attention, ask her questions or simply feel the need to tell her things. Most of these are good things, some are amusing and a small portion seem set to drag her back to The Sad Days though, this girl must say, that’s not really working these days.
Through this thinking thingamajig, this girl has come to learn a few things:
#1- Its okay to crash.
If something really bad happens to you, its alright to let yourself simply and fully crash. Cos once the crash is over, the worst is over and you can start the healing process.
#2- Your friends will stand and be counted.
It is only at your darkest hour that you really know who your friends are. Not just because they are the ones that are there for you, but they are the ones you reach out to.
#3- You’ll know what people- and you- are made of.
Only when the shit hits the fan is can you truly tell the true measure of a Man. Many will be measured and found wanting.
#4- Size doesn’t always matter.
Great gifts come in small packages: like hugs, kisses, pats on the back, simple prayers and a warm smile. Oh, and sometimes in little chocolate packages or CD compilations too.
#5- Recovery can be miraculously quick.
That people find it tough to believe that a quick rebound is possible. It is, really. This girl is living proof. And the recovery, though quick, is not any less complete or less effective. It just is.
#6- You’ll answer for that that you’ve chosen.
It is by our actions, thoughts and deeds that we are judged. We are not perfect, and we try to be; but the fact is, our choices have consequences. Just make sure the cost is not more than you can bear, because there are some paths you walk down and there’s no turning back.
#7- Friends pick sides.
Friends always pick sides. We all pretend we can be neutral and fair and stuff. We can’t. We are emotional creatures and we pick sides. And its perfectly fine you find it hard to make peace with the side you picked, we all get there in the end. Cos friends pick sides and you don’t have to feel bad either ways.
#8- Life offers its own barometers for how you’re doing.
Life has its ways of showing you how far you have come. If you never thought you’d be able to love again, it shows you you can. If you never thought you’d trust again, it shows you you can and you have. If you never thought you’d get over being hurt, angry or sad; its shows you you can, you have and life’s the better for it.
#9- The Truth sets you free.
That the Truth hurts, but it does set you free. And it always withstands testing and the refining of fire.
#10- Everything happens for a reason, nothing’s by chance.
It is not always obvious why things happen the way they do, at the time they do. But all does become clearer in time. There is a greater picture we cannot see, but it is there and all will be revealed in time. When one door closes, another opens. That the Will of God will never send you where the Grace of God cannot keep you.
true.